kitchen table

over here now
December 9, 2008, 10:53 am
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Please visit, thank you.


January 10, 2007, 8:49 pm
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No, I didn’t quit life. I just starting writing over here again. WordPress isn’t my thing, apologies.

christmas gift
November 27, 2006, 2:06 pm
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I wish I had a coffee fairy who would magically refill my mug with a French-press of steaming hot coffee the moment I most needed it. Cream & sugar would be nice too.

I love my dad, but…
November 9, 2006, 2:07 pm
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Via Feministing.

ted haggard: hyprocrite and victim?
November 9, 2006, 12:17 pm
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I’m about a week or so late on this one, but I want to comment about Ted Haggard. You know, this guy.

One thing that’s missing so far from the discussion I’ve read and heard is sadness. There’s been anger. And shock. And even, as Laura points out, hypocritical snickering at hypocrisy. But there doesn’t seem to be a whole lot of sadness and what I mean by that is this: our heterosexist, patriarchal culture has created an atmosphere in which homosexuality is so deviant that gay (or bisexual) men like Haggard dedicate their lives to a mission of self-hatred.

That’s sad, not funny.

I’ll admit to some vindictive giggles when I first found out, especially when he admitted buying crystal meth but not using it and getting a massage from a male prostitute but not sleeping with him. Now, however, I’m ashamed of myself for laughing at a man who is clearly struggling. And while yes, a lot of Haggard’s past statements about the queer community anger me, I also recognize that we, as a society, need to take some collective responsibility.

Haggard’s hypocrisy didn’t grow out of nothing. It came from a culture of gay jokes, of narrow definitions of “real men,” of a denial of basic rights to those who identify as gay or lesbian, bisexual or transgendered. It came from the same culture that claims it is trying to protect the sanctity of an institution that the ends in divorce over 50% of the time. It came from a culture where the physical expression of love between two men or two women was, for years, illegal.

No wonder Haggard hates himself. From the moment he and other gay Americans could talk, they’ve been silenced.

I think this is worth a mention
October 21, 2006, 2:04 pm
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Last week, Jessica at Feministing posted a photograph of the cover of her forthcoming book, Full Frontal Feminism. I don’t like the cover but I appreciated Jessica’s explanation of its intended audience and her choice/risk. That being said, I’m ashamed that I didn’t think about the book’s ability to reach a nonwhite audience–especially with a cover like that. A function of my own privledge and racism, no doubt. I make no excuses.

Nubian, of Blac(k)ademic fame, became the recepient of some targeted and pretty hateful comments after she stated her initial reaction:

why didn’t you just call it, a young WHITE womans guide to WHITE feminism.

this is wack.

i’m sorry. the naked torso of a woman is offensive AND the naked WHITE torso of the young woman pisses me off.

And then of course, all hell broke loose. Nubian was accused–not by Jessica or Feministing writers but by other commenters–of being racist, mean and of stabbing the “Feministing team” in the back.

What? Since when did disagreement become an automatic stab in the back? Sounds to me like “you’re either with us or against us” mentality. Come on folks, let’s not jump all over someone the minute she expresses her disappointment. It seems obvious to me that the rush to defend Jessica with hugs and kisses–which I wonder if she even appreciated–and bash Nubian had more to do with people’s refusal to admit their own racial privledge and their own white guilt than with the issue at hand.

Anyway, there are more comments over at Nubian’s. I think it’s all worth reading and discussing.

September 29, 2006, 5:21 pm
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Photo by my friend Zeb Millett

Going to the Adirondaks this weekend with Boyfriend and some of his friends. Feeling the urge to get back behind my camera & also the need to employ a scanner. Anyway, hope to do some hiking.